Pokes
How would you feel if your significant other was extremely close to someone of the opposite sex? And how would you react?
How would you feel if your significant other, turned fiancée, turned spouse was extremely uncomfortable with your friendship with someone of the opposite sex? How would you react?
How would you feel if your best friend of years and years suddenly started dating someone who flat out didn't like you (even though they hadn't met you) and asked that they no longer be friends with you? How would you react? I very much had a "who is this bitch? I was here first" attitude. I probably could have handled it better.
I had an idea that Dave and I would be friends until we were toothless and eating pudding in an old folks home. Our kids and grandkids would be best friends, and even our dogs would get along. What I didn't take into consideration is that someone might feel threatened by our closeness and that it could cause very serious arguments between them; to the point where my name is now a forbidden word. It's frustrating because the jealousy is unwarranted. We've never had a physical encounter or done anything inappropriate, there's no attraction between us, and we feel and act like brother and sister.
Dave is my best friend. I want his marriage to be successful and happy. I know I'm still his best friend. I know he misses me everyday too. I really want him to be a part of my life but I also don't want to be the target of someone else's insecurities.
I don't know if I should even respond to this, or just let it remain a part of my past and move on. Can you reach a limit with a best friend?
